Consider your pains, the grudges you may hold, gossip that may have ensued, and how reconciliation is needed. The majority of all conflict in our lives and the world comes from the inability to hear the other or to be received by another. Both positions cause pain. Read about healthy ways of conflict resolution. Choose one situation in your life to begin with to speak your pain and work toward eventual reconciliation and even forgiveness. Consciously craft a relationship with a prayer partner or partners who can support you, so that you can walk strong in the way of love.